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May 11, 2010



It is hard to believe that women do not consider that the person recommending something may have different criteria from them. I'm going to ask my wife about it, plus several of her female friends and coworkers of mine (to build up a good sample) before I put much faith in that.

Phil Wrzesinski


Great post on differences - very important distinction in marketing. I read a similar article on the differences that put it like this...

Men talk vertically - did what I say make you think higher or lower of me? Women talk horizontally - did what I say draw me in closer or push me away further?

It's a good explanation of why men won't stop and ask for directions - if I admit to being lost, you'll think lower of me. It also explains why signs in stores work better for men than women (from Paco Underhill's "Why We Buy"). Men would rather read a sign than ask for help. Women would rather ask for help than read a sign, primarily because of these differences in communication.

Holly Buchanan

Phil - I love the horizontal/vertical explanation. I will have to steal that!

Steve, you bring up a great point, so let me clarify.
Women often determine if someone is "like them" if that person has the same criteria or motivation for buying a product.

One of the reasons why women like product reviews by their peers is that the reviews talk about the criteria they themselves care about.

If I'm looking for a quiet washer and dryer, and I see a review from another woman who says her washer/dryer is so quiet she doesn't even know they're running - I'm going to take that recommendation to heart.

Women sometimes have different criteria of what matters to them than men do. Here's some more information on that - http://www.grokdotcom.com/2008/04/29/using-customer-review-keywords-to-pick-up-women-men/

Phil Wrzesinski

Holly, one cautionary tale...

I used that explanation in a talk recently and got a lot of flack from one of the women present (the one sponsoring my talk, no less:-) Although she took offense to what I said, she went on to prove it by talking about how the sales*men* would often talk down to her with an "I know what's best for you" attitude while sales*women* would focus more on the connection and relationship aspect of the sale.

It was a surreal experience, for sure:-)

Holly Buchanan

Phil - sorry you had to "take one for the team" on that one :) I don't need to tell you that women (and men) are sensitive to being stereotyped.

In my presentations I point out that some women have male communication styles and some men have female communication styles. It is a style of communicating. Not all women or all men communicate the same way.

Also, if it helps, a lot of the giants in this field of research are women - like Deborah Tannen.

Holly Buchanan

Phil - one more thought on that.

If you have a hostile audience member (I've run into that as well) use the rest of the audience to your advantage. If a guy makes a comment to me that he doesn't agree with something I've said, I turn to the guys in the audience and ask their opinion. Every time I do that, someone in the audience will argue my side.

If a woman objects to something you say, ask the other women in the audience what they think.

Phil Wrzesinski

Thanks Holly. I appreciate the tips and advice.

In this case I allowed her to say her piece and then repeated her points to the audience that matched my points. I think it worked out well in the end, but I will certainly keep in mind the stereotyping and how I present that for future talks.

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It's true that men and women react differently to situations.Thanks for sharing your observations and views.The post made for a delightful read.Look forward to hearing from you soon again.

Emily Foshee

Holly, very insightful post. Your information verifies the "Men are from Mars, Women are From Venus" theory. Generally speaking, men and woman are just different and always will be. Both perspectives are valid. Marketers need to keep in mind who their audience is: men or women, and create their marketing messages accordingly. When the audience consists of both men and women, marketers must create a message that will strike a chord in both.

Pär Larsson

Absolutely bloody love this post. Sure it's a bit stereotyping, but then again it's very true for a lot of women I care about. So much so that I blogged it http://reasonablydoubtingnews.blogspot.com/2010/12/vegans-homeopathic-medicine-snakeoil.html

Sonia Roody

I think most women are too meticulous. Most of the time, before they buy products, they often ask questions to salesmen and/or opinion of friends. That's why good communication in business is truly important to reach out the target market. In a call center, every conversation matters because it aims to connect and build trust between clients and companies.


I turn to the guys in the audience and ask their opinion. Every time I do that, someone in the audience will argue my side.

Monica Mattimore

I don't know how this fits into the research...

In addition to the points made in the article, which I wholeheartedly agree with, when I am forming my opinion I tend to have a natural distrust of "authority". Its not that I just value it less than another's opinion. I find that I immediately assume that I am being sold something and question the source. Barriers are up and I am listening for the catch.

Great article.

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