I was giving myself a pep talk this morning. (do you ever do that?) I had a really interesting conversation with Bryan and Jeffrey Eisenberg at Future Now last week. I've been with them for almost four years now. These are two smart dudes who are really good at getting my brain juices flowing. It's really interesting to look at myself through their eyes.
I am so far from the person I was four years ago it is amazing. And yet, in some very basic ways, I have not changed at all. (that may sound strange to you, but it makes perfect sense to me)
We were discussing confidence. I have a huge amount of confidence - in myself and in what I do. I've been very successful. I am really good with clients. I can get up and speak to a room of hundreds without getting nervous. I will put my brain up against just about anyone's.
So why am I always overcompensating?
You've heard me speak about my 3:07 AM "aha moments". Well, it hit me again last night. I overcompensate. I've done it forever.
My reports have to be more thorough. My presentations have to have more slides. My strategy has to have more reasoning. My insights have to have more research to back them up.
The only thing that makes me feel better is - I'm not alone. I see women everywhere doing the same thing.
Do you work in a male dominated industry? Do you feel the need to do everything better just to be accepted, to be acknowledged?